Are Your Emotions Getting in The Way of a Fair and Equitable Divorce Settlement?
It’s no surprise that divorce brings out the worst in all of us. Emotions run high and anger, jealousy, resentment and feelings of betrayal can color our decisions. The unfortunate reality is that these feelings can trigger actions that may sabotage your divorce settlement. To help minimize the impact that your emotions can have when you’re negotiating the terms of your divorce, consider these potential problems.
Property Division
Do you have an emotional attachment to the family home? Are your overly concerned with the possibility that your estranged spouse may be planning to settle in with a new partner – in the home that you built together? These feelings are natural, but they’re not productive. It’s understandable that you feel anger and resentment at the idea of your ex moving on in the home you made together. But, ultimately, that house is an asset that needs to be divided. Divorce offers the opportunity to start a new. Sever ties to material possessions and look towards the future. This will be far easier if you leave your emotional attachment out of the property division negotiations that will impact your financial future.
Spousal Support
In an acrimonious divorce, it’s likely that the last thing you want to do is support the person you no longer love. You may be far too focused on what – or who — your soon-to-be-ex spouse will spend that money on. It doesn’t matter. Concentrate on what’s fair. Focus on the numbers and the specifics that your lawyer defines for you. On the flip side, if you’re the spouse fighting to receive support – being vindictive does not support your claim. It heightens emotions and makes your spouse fight that much harder to withhold the support you are due. Play it smart and leave the desire for retribution out of the equation.
Parenting Time
Child custody is perhaps the most emotional issue of all in a divorce. In the worst-case scenarios, parents use their children as a weapon against one another. They fight for the upper hand by denigrating their partner’s parenting skills and trying to minimize parenting time with the children of the marriage. The best advice we can give here is to let go of the anger by putting your children first. What is best for them? Let that guide you.
At Mejias Milgrim & Alvarado, P.C. we’ve seen the best and the worst when it comes to divorce. We recognize when emotions are sabotaging negotiations. And while we understand where these feeling are coming from, we work hard to redirect your energies towards resolving your differences in a way that helps you obtain a settlement that meets your needs, realistically. It may feel unfair, in the heat of the moment – but, in the long term, this approach always serves your best interests.
Property Division
Do you have an emotional attachment to the family home? Are your overly concerned with the possibility that your estranged spouse may be planning to settle in with a new partner – in the home that you built together? These feelings are natural, but they’re not productive. It’s understandable that you feel anger and resentment at the idea of your ex moving on in the home you made together. But, ultimately, that house is an asset that needs to be divided. Divorce offers the opportunity to start a new. Sever ties to material possessions and look towards the future. This will be far easier if you leave your emotional attachment out of the property division negotiations that will impact your financial future.
Spousal Support
In an acrimonious divorce, it’s likely that the last thing you want to do is support the person you no longer love. You may be far too focused on what – or who — your soon-to-be-ex spouse will spend that money on. It doesn’t matter. Concentrate on what’s fair. Focus on the numbers and the specifics that your lawyer defines for you. On the flip side, if you’re the spouse fighting to receive support – being vindictive does not support your claim. It heightens emotions and makes your spouse fight that much harder to withhold the support you are due. Play it smart and leave the desire for retribution out of the equation.
Parenting Time
Child custody is perhaps the most emotional issue of all in a divorce. In the worst-case scenarios, parents use their children as a weapon against one another. They fight for the upper hand by denigrating their partner’s parenting skills and trying to minimize parenting time with the children of the marriage. The best advice we can give here is to let go of the anger by putting your children first. What is best for them? Let that guide you.
At Mejias Milgrim & Alvarado, P.C. we’ve seen the best and the worst when it comes to divorce. We recognize when emotions are sabotaging negotiations. And while we understand where these feeling are coming from, we work hard to redirect your energies towards resolving your differences in a way that helps you obtain a settlement that meets your needs, realistically. It may feel unfair, in the heat of the moment – but, in the long term, this approach always serves your best interests.
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